“A flower does not think of competing with the next flower, it just blooms”… author unknown
I read this quote at a dance competition I was at with my daughter. Dance competitions can be a difficult especially when you have a child or dance group that work hard and do not meet the judges expectations. It was during this particular competition, our groups were not doing well even though, us parents thought they were amazing, that this quote showed up on my feed for the first time. I stopped to really think about it and realized that this was what these dancers were doing, they were blooming. The groups competing with them were also blooming and this made me forget about the adjudication and I just enjoyed the show. The anxiety I was feeling was gone… What a great relief.
I started thinking about this quote and applied it to situations in my life. I realized that we compete with others everyday, every hour… competing with other peers, chasing after the closest parking spot, wanting our kids to be better than the rest… the list goes on and on. If you think about it, our lives seem to revolve around competing with one another.
Let’s take a step back and look at the bigger picture. There will always be people better than us, prettier, smarter etc. Does it really matter that they are? Letting go of our need to compete with each other, though not an easy task, can be liberating. It can reduce stress and anxiety. It opens us up to self-love and acceptance of who we are, flaws and all. By ‘just blooming’ you also learn to enjoy other people’s accomplishments and rejoice in their success. It is no longer a burden to hide feelings of inadequacy because you are ‘just blooming’… just being yourself.